Signs of Abuse

HOW TO RECOGNIZE WHETHER YOU ARE IN AN ABUSE RELATIONSHIP

THERE ARE SEVERAL WARNING SIGNS OF BEING IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

1. WHEN A PARTNER WARNS YOU “IF YOU CONTACT ANYONE OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP HE/SHE WILL DO CERTAIN THINGS TO YOU, THE CHILDREN OR OTHER PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT”

2. IF YOU DO NOT DO CERTAIN THINGS, AGAIN THERE WILL BE CONSEQUENCES

3. THAT YOU MAY FIND DRUGS PLANTED IN YOUR VEHICLE

4. IF YOUR IDENTIFICATION OR OTHER IMPORTANT DOCUMENTS DISAPPEAR

5. BEING TOLD THAT YOU ARE INSANE, OR HAVE MENTAL PROBLEMS.

6. YELLING, SCREAMING OBSCENITIES AT YOU AND/OR THE CHILDREN

7.  ACTING COMPLETELY NICE WHEN COMPANY IS PRESENT

8.  SUGGESTING TO COMPANY THAT HE/SHE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU BASED ON PREVIOUS ABUSIVE ACTS AND/OR LANGUAGE

9.  REMINDING YOU OF A LAUNDRY LIST OF THINGS YOU HAVE DONE WRONG IN THE PAST, SUGGESTING MENTAL INCAPACITY ON YOUR PART

10.  REFUSING ANY TYPE OF COUNSELLING AND/OR MENTAL GUIDANCE FOR THE FAMILY AND NOTIFYING YOU THAT YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS

11.  PUNCHING WALLS NEXT TO YOU, THE CHILDREN.

12.  PUTTING YOU DOWN, CALLING YOU “STUPID” OR ANY OTHER FOUL NAMES

13.  BELITTLE YOU IN THE PRESENCE OF THE CHILDREN

14.  CONTROL YOUR WHEREABOUTS, CELL PHONE LOGS ETC..

15.  DISCUSS YOU AND/OR YOUR ALLEGED STRANGE BEHAVIOR TO OTHERS, LIKE FAMILY MEMBERS, SETTING UP HIS/HER CASE FOR THE FUTURE

16.  DEPRIVATION OF TRANSPORTATION, COMMUNICATION DEVICES, BY USING AN ARRAY OF EXCUSES

17.  CONSTANTLY REMINDING YOU OF THE PAST, BUT ONLY WHEN IT COMES TO NEGATIVE MATTERS.

18.  REMINDING YOU HOW STUPID YOU ARE, OR THAT WITHOUT HIM/HER YOU WILL BE ON THE STREETS

19.  THREATENING TO LEAVE WITH THE CHILDREN AND DISAPPEAR FOREVER

THERE ARE SO MANY OTHER SUBTLE WAYS AND THINGS SPOUSES/PARTNERS DO AND SAY WHICH QUALIFY AS ABUSIVE.

UNFORTUNATELY, OVER THE LAST 22 YEARS, FAR TOO MANY CLIENTS AND/OR POTENTIAL CLIENTS HAVE STATED “OH, HE/SHE DOES NOT HIT ME, HE/SHE IS ONLY VERBALLY ABUSIVE”  NOT REALIZING THAT MENTAL ABUSE, WHICH I KNOW EQUATES MENTAL CRUELTY IS FAR MORE DAMAGING THAN PHYSICAL ABUSE.

IN THOSE SITUATIONS, LEAVE, LEAVE, LEAVE, DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT REMAIN IN THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP. FOR YOUR SAKE. FOR YOUR CHILDREN’S SAKE.

WHERE EVER YOU RESIDE IN THIS COUNTRY, THERE ARE SERVICES AVAILABLE TO YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN.

IN THE STATE OF FLORIDA, WE ARE AMONG THE MOST FORTUNATE. SAFESPACE, HIBISCUS HOUSE, AND COUNTLESS OTHER NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATIONS HAVE BEEN SET UP TO PROVIDE ALL TYPES OF ASSISTANCE TO PEOPLE IN THOSE SITUATIONS.

DANIE VICTOR-LAGUERRE, ESQUIRE
VICTOR LAW CENTER, PA
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